Blake is not going to Bob's (Jonelle's) at all now, he is not allowed back until he apologizes to Bob for swearing at him. Turns out that Bob had originally called Blake a 'stupid idiot' and a 'waste of space' and in return Blake told him off. Not to mention, Bob chased him a round the outside of the house with a block of wood threatening to hurt him.
Bob would not take Blake to his tournament in Lacrosse WI this past weekend because apparently in addition to the apology Blake is a spoiled brat and doesn't deserve to go and Bob did not have the money for the gas and hotel.... Funny cause he has money for dinner and movies with his girlfriend and gas to go mtn biking together, but I guess a tank of gas and a night in a cheap motel is not in his budget. I shouldn't even complain because Blake didn't even want Bob to take him anyway.
I told Blake that I can help him (get help) for his angry issues as long as he can take a break from his Dad, there is no way to help Blake unless he is away from the abuse and can start to heal. He has agreed to go back to counseling, which is a great start. I am going to take a break from counseling for myself and get Blake to go on a regular basis.
Jonelle (the lady that Bob is renting-living with) has gotten really close to Blake and Megan in the 2 weeks (1 week for Blake) that they have lived there, which is really only 1 week total because we share the kids. So she came to Megan's softball game last week, sat right next to me, which was fine...She is a talker, but she means well. The weird thing though is why was she at the game in the first place? Its really strange that there is nothing going on between her and Bob, and she comes to his daughters game? Standing at the fence taking pictures of Megan with her ipad? This was my day with the kids and she came to the game and even gave them hugs when we were all leaving (in front of everyone). She is a school bus driver so she knew a lot of families at the game. When asked why she was at the game or who she was there to watch she explained that Bob (who is a coach) and the kids had moved in with her.
I am trying to figure out how I feel about this situation, I don't feel threatened by Jonelle, but I feel like its just not normal to do what she is doing. Sunday night Megan asked if she could stay another night and come home on Monday during the day and I said fine, but then when Jonelle texted me to ask what time she should drop Megan off at, I said I was working from home and so anytime would be great. Needless to say, she ended up bringing her to 'Xplode' at 4 and called to see if I would pick her up at 5? I guess if this happens again, I will have to be firm and tell her that I am coming to get her.
Monday morning she sent Megan a text that said 'I miss you already', now that pisses me off. Who does that? I think she is overstepping her boundaries and I don't know what to do about it. She is taking Blake fishing today, even though Blake is not allowed on her property...She also sent me a text over the weekend asking me what size Megan is and that her and her girls (16, 17 and 18) were shopping for her birthday. She also sent a text saying that Megan and the girls were in the pool and how funny Megan is.
Normal divorced people have to prepare themselves for the kids to have another woman in their lives at some point, but between Eva and Jonelle and all the fun stuff that Megan get's to do with them and don't have to enforce and rules or chores, this is getting super hard for me. I did sit down with Megan to talk about some of this because she was making comments about why I didn't have certain cereal at my house for her and that Jonelle makes sure that Megan has all the food that she likes and how she doesn't have to help with any house work at Jonelles and how there are no brothers to fight with there. I got her back on track, at least until she goes there again.
I will not judge either Jonelle or Eva, I am sure they are both very nice people. I will always be respectful to anyone woman that Bob has in his life, but I have a hard time when this is all happening so fast.
I cant remember is I mentioned that Bob has to lie to Jonelle when he goes to Eva's, he says he is going to his sisters. Funny cause he stays out late or overnight and that is just weird to do that with your sister? I find it hard to believe that she falls for that. She mentioned how busy Bob and I are with the kids and sports, but Bob doesnt go to any of Blake's sports so I am thinking that he is lying about that too. The one night he left Blake's game after 30 minutes and took Eva and her boys to a movie and another game he took Eva Mtn biking, so he is using Blake and sports as an excuse to be with Eva. Why would he do all this lying and tell the kids about it? Involving them in this mess is just horrible and what is it teaching them about love and relationships. He is crap and I wish he would move away.
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